Recently, I’ve been thinking about age and how I’ve allowed it to interfere with the way I view myself and my self esteem.
Over three years ago, I had weight loss surgery and lost over 100 lbs. The reason that I had the surgery was to feel better physically, but I also wanted to enjoy the “side effect” of looking better as well. I’ve had a lot of fun exploring my sense of style, trying new things, and sharing them via Instagram and this blog. Not to mention the real fun of reading all of the hilarious messages I get from strange men with fake profiles on Instagram!!!
The reason I started the blog was because I was having so much fun digging through the thrift shops and coming up with fun clothing that made me feel good for cheap! I thought that it would be fun to share how you can still look good on a budget. And I also wanted to share with women like me who don’t have glamorous lives and don’t have the opportunity to get dressed up that you can still have a great sense of style in casual, everyday clothes.
But it has become increasingly apparent that I now look much older than I am. Before my weight loss, people always thought I was younger than I actually was. Now, people assume that I am quite a bit older. I am now regularly offered senior discounts at places where the eligible age is over 65 (I am 57). It has happened so often recently, that I had all but decided to stop blogging and Instagramming. According to my reasoning, I have no business writing about being attractive when I don’t even look my age!
Wait … what??? Yes, I have been dwelling on this for over a month. I know, I know … I’m an idiot! I’ve needed someone to smack some sense in me.
Then yesterday, I came across a quote:
And it struck such a chord with me. What difference does it really make how old people think I am … what number people place on me? None. Who cares that I have more wrinkles than the average 58 year old? No one! I have tried new things, often stepped out of my box, and become a new person in the last three years. What matters is how healthy I feel, how much further I can walk, how much more I can do than I did before. What matters is the things I have learned from the other wonderful women I have “met” through social media and, hopefully, that some have learned from me.
So, today’s lesson. It’s only a (made up) number. And it doesn’t define me at all!
And if you’re going to offer me the senior discount, I’ll take it … and buy another piece of jewelry!
Thank you for joining me on my frugal fashion journey! Please follow me here, on Bloglovin’, Instagram and Facebook. Check out the linkups I participate in. And please feel free to comment — I’d love to know what you think!
Maggie,
I so enjoy your great love of color and style. I do not think anyone would have any idea how old you are. Often if there is a senior discount–they politely offer it. I not only enjoy your thrifty finds but enjoy your pictures of Cape May. I often try to guess your backgrounds since I live there 7 months of the year. Smile and know you have followers that think you are terrific. Dawn
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Thank you, Dawn! You’re absolutely right — I allowed something that was probably completely impersonal to totally derail me. Weird, right? We also are down in Cape May for a few months out of the year. It’s my favorite place in the world! Thanks so much for reading!
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I lost 120 pounds with weight loss surgery almost 10 years ago at 52! I shop thrift stores to find affordable clothing. My un fatfilled face is wrinkly and so is my body! I am healthy! Loving life. Look older than my age and recognize that it is okay. Keep showing off wing me casual fashion…it is my style now as I live in the Wyoming Rocky mountains (after moving from Philadelphia!!!)
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Donna, I’m so happy to hear from someone who has been through the same thing! You’re right, the wrinklies are here to stay … but they’re a good trade off for all the benefits I gained from my surgery. Thanks for reading!
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I found your blog on the I will wear what I like link up. I also love thrift shopping. I read this post and then looked back at a previous post. I only see a vibrant, happy woman in all the photos. If you had not mentioned your age I may have thought you were around 50. It really is just a number.
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Lise, thanks so much! I appreciate your taking the time to comment! It’s so nice to meet a fellow thrifter.
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I found your post via Patti’s Visible Monday, where I thought you looked so lovely, and cheerful, in your scarlet top. Now I feel that I have to comment on what you are saying. There is such emphasis on youth these days and in striving to look younger than you are. When I read blogs where women in their thirties are worrying about lines etc I think it is very sad. In my experience good health and happiness are the main things to be concerned about, they animate the face and make it attractive – your smiling photo proves that. I’m coming up to 75, and, believe me, wrinkles are of no account, it’s good health and happiness that I treasure.
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You are absolutely right, it is sad and I’m determined not to give into it! Thanks for your words of wisdom!
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I’m so glad you came to your senses, Maggie!! Because as great as it is to be considered younger than you really are, it really means nothing to be considered older too!! That age thing—truly a number!
But finding fun in what you do whether it’s online or whatever—is what really keeps us going and feeling good about ourselves!!!
So glad you’re back!!
XOXO
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
PS..I regularly ask for a senior discount because I figure it’s never bad to save money!! Rarely do they ask for my ID!!!!
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I enjoyed reading this and I have to say that I don’t think you look old at all. I think you look happy and healthy.
It was the qoute at the start that made me read your post and I’m glad I did because I share your attitude!
Sally
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Ps quote that is!! Trying to type too quickly
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Maggie, I love this post so much! And I am so glad that you are embracing your age and your journey! This is so inspiring and you look fabulous for a woman of any age! This post will be a featured favorite on my link up post this week (on Tuesday)! Thanks for joining the party.
Shelbee
http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com
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